I Read that there is NO Harm in Children having Sex with Adults....

 ​Yes, you read the title correctly! Prepare to either get angry, or agree; there are no grey areas on this topic.

Have you ever heard of the PIE, Pedophile Information Exchange? The group was derived in England, and then relocated to London in 1975 with goals of advocating for pedophiles. PIE suggests that pedophilia is a wholly undesirable abnormality requiring sensitive treatment; and they also advocate to, “alleviate the suffering of adults and children” while hoping to abolish the age of consent which would legalize sex between adults and children.

Based on a few articles that I’ve read over the past few days, PIE members have been lobbying for the age of consent to be reduced as they campaign for “pedophile love”. The group suggests that children who have had sex with adults were not harmed. Yes, that is what I said….they suggest there is no harm! In fact, a published report written for the Criminal Law Revision Committee back in 1976 states that a representative of PIE stated, “Where both partners are aged 10 or over, but under 14, a consenting sexual act should not be an offense; and as the age of consent is arbitrary, we propose an overlap of two years on either side of 14. Childhood sexual experiences, willingly engaged in, with an adult result in no identifiable damage. The Criminal Law Commission should be prepared to accept the evidence from follow-up research on child ‘victims’ which show there is little subsequent effect after a child has been ‘molested’. The real need is a change in the attitude which assumes that all cases of pedophilia result in lasting damage. The present legal penalties are too high and reinforce the misinformation and prejudice. The duty of the court should be to inquire into all relevant circumstances with the intention, not of meting out severe punishment, but of determining the best solution in the interests of both child and pedophile.”

I realize that the statement was made in 1976, but apparently PIE has had some influence on policy-making at the National Council for Civil Liberties (NCCL)! So why are we just now hearing about this??? It appears that after all of these years, the pressure of needing to know forced the former Labour MP for Leicester West, Mr. Hewitt to admit that the NCCL was naïve and wrong for involving themselves with PIE. Now that the ‘word’ is out, Mrs. Hewitt is trying to convince us that she never condoned crimes against children, and that she “consistently distinguished between homosexual men on the one hand, and the abuse of children on the other.” Confused??? Yes, I am too! I am not sure what one has to do with the other.

From what I’ve been reading it seems to me that there were a bunch of folks supporting PIE, and doing so since 1976. Today, there is evidence of this, and many people fighting for the rights of children are learning about what has been going on behind closed doors. There are many individuals running in the opposite direction, which is what they should have done 18 years ago! All of a sudden folks want to deny their involvement with PIE; well the question remains, what was going on all of these years that kept these same folks from speaking out about PIE’s campaigns???

For those of you who do not know, the legal definition of child sexual abuse is an act of a person (adult or child) who forces, coerces or threatens a child to have any form of sexual contact or to engage in any type of sexual activity at the perpetrator’s direction.

Child sexual abuse consists of sexual intercourse or its deviations, which include the following:  

Touching offenses - fondling; making a child touch the perpetrator’s sexual organs; and penetrating a child’s vagina or anus regardless to how slight with one’s penis or other objects (unless for medical purposes)

Non-touching offenses – engaging in indecent exposure or exhibitionism; exposing children to pornographic material; deliberately exposing a child to the act of sexual intercourse; and masturbating in front of a child

Sexual exploitation – engaging a child or soliciting a child for the purposes of prostitution; and using a child a child to film, photograph or model pornography

Effects on children who had experienced child sexual abuse:

Children up to age 3 may exhibit:

Fear or excessive crying                                                                                                                               Vomiting                                                                                                                                                              
Feeding problems                                                                                                                                                         
Bowel problems                                                                                                                               
Sleep disturbances                                                                                                                                   
Failure to thrive

Children ages 2 to 9 may exhibit:

Fear of particular people, places or activities                                                                                                   
Regression to earlier behaviors such as bed wetting or stranger anxiety                                                    
Victimization of others                                                                                                                                  
Excessive  masturbation                                                                                                                               
Feelings of shame or guilt                                                                                                                            
Nightmares or sleep disturbances                                                                                                                                
Withdrawal from family or friends                                                                                                                   
Fear of attack recurring                                                                                                                                 
Eating disturbances

Symptoms of sexual abuse in older children and adolescents include:

Depression                                                                                                                                                                   
Nightmares or sleep disturbances                                                                                                                       
Poor school performance                                                                                                                                           Promiscuity                                                                                                                                                 
Substance abuse                                                                                                                                         Aggression                                                                                                                                                                        
Running away from home                                                                                                                              
Fear of attack recurring                                                                                                                                
Eating disturbances                                                                                                                                     
Early pregnancy or marriage                                                                                                                         
Suicidal gestures                                                                                                                                         
Anger about being forced into situation beyond one’s control                                                                            
Pseudo-mature behaviors

Effects on adults who experienced child sexual abuse:

Self-esteem – have no rights; have no control in their life; and believes they are bad people

Emotions/feelings – have a difficult time identifying or expressing feelings; cannot trust their feelings; feel like their emotions are out of control

Relationships – avoid closeness in order to prevent betrayal; become involved with abusive people; cling to people for approval; put other people’s needs before their own because they don’t feel worthy

Body – disconnected from bodily sensations; feel bad about their body; inflicts pain or injury to one’s self; abuse alcohol, drugs or food

Sexuality – numb during sexual intercourse; avoid sex altogether; seek sex to meet other emotional needs; vulnerable to sexual exploitation

Parenting – find it difficult to balance needs their needs with those of their children; overprotective; find it difficult to show affection appropriately

Further information that some of you may not know is that child sexual abuse is an epidemic in Western society! Based on the 2014 Child Welfare Information Gateway, in 2012 there were approximately3.4 million referrals of child maltreatment; of that 3.4 million there 17.7% of those referrals were substantiated; and of the 17.7% substantiated 9.3% of them were victims of sexual abuse.

I don’t know about you but when I read the facts, facts that have been proven time and time again, I cannot help but get angry over the idea of a group of people trying to ‘change’ the already horrible laws that are supposed to protect our children! It is obvious that there is a major issue that needs serious attention; but the issue is not changing the consent age or trying to convince folks that pedophiles should have just as much rights as the children being victimized! The issue is that there needs to be tougher laws and better options for psychological treatment for the offenders! A tap on the wrist, sign up with Megan’s Law and a few pills to 'control' their desires or mental health issues is not the answer!  

So, on the behalf of all of the children who suffered at the hands of a pedophile, WE DO NOT ACCEPT THE ‘APOLOGIES’ AND ‘REGRETS’ OF THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO STOOD BY AND SUPPORTED, AND/OR STOOD BY AND QUIETLY WATCHED THE CAMPAIGNING OF PIE! Yes, pedophiles need help, and their sickness should not be swept under the rug; but NO THERE SHOULD NOT BE A CHANGE IN THE AGE OF CONSENT, AND CHILDREN SHOULD BE CONSIDERED FIRST AND FOREMOST IN ALL CASES OF RAPE AND MOLESTATION!

People....please learn what you can about this topic and share your information. I will continue to do my research and if I am able to find anything that disputes or provides more detail into this topic I will be sure to post it. In the meantime, people remain aware; and please defend what is right.

Our children cannot speak for themselves, which means they need us to stand up and help them be heard. Let’s work together to ensure the safety and well-being of our babies!

Let’s not forget….it takes a village to raise a child!

Mrs. Tomaro Pilgrim, MS

For further information on how to recognize child maltreatment please visit http://www.tomaros-change.org/prevention-tips.html!

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