Tough Love.....

Often times we find ourselves looking at our current situations and complaining about how unhappy and uncomfortable we are. In many cases, our circumstances are what they are due to a past out of our control; for example, growing up in a single family home; parents addicted to alcohol/drugs; poverty; child abuse; and so on.
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Each of us have our own demons, those experiences that we just can’t seem to shake. Some of those demons may cause us to make bad choices, spend time with ‘bad’ people and head down the wrong road physically, emotionally and spiritually; and these choices people may even follow us through our adolescents, even a great part of our early adulthood.

But what happens when we reach our late 20s, our 30s? How long do we hold onto the past and allow it to “control” our thoughts and actions? When do we say,enough is enough and it is time to take responsibility for our negative actions, our reckless behaviors? This is a good question to ask, particularly when our actions affect those we love…..like our children.

If you are one who has experienced a lifetime (or a short time) of troubles, many of which are not due to any fault of your own (or maybe all your fault), you are over 25 and have (or not have) a family then this message is for you….

It is time to stop the madness! Stop crying and complaining about your circumstances! Stop pointing the finger at others! Take a few minutes and revisit your choices in action/behavior; what did YOU do to get YOU where YOU are in this moment????? Now, ask YOURSELF what YOU must do to get YOU out of YOUR current situation. Ponder for a while…..and be real with YOU!

In case you didn’t know, the ‘woes me’ loses its tune after a while; people begin to go tone death….not wanting to hear you sing the same ole song and do the same ole dance.

So, do everyone a favor….no, do YOURSELF a favor and Stop blaming your present on your past and allowing it to dictate your future!

If you cannot make the necessary changes alone; if you need some advice, guidance or resources there is always someone available to help (Let's Talk). No more excuses, no more blaming….it is time to take care of YOU! If I can make positive changes, anyone can. 

Enjoy today!
Mrs. Tomaro Pilgrim, BA, MSC, MSHS, HS-BCP
Let's Talk!
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